Getting to Know the Real Enemy of Your Marriage – Part 3

Mom, I had a bad dream!”

My 5-year-old son was very downcast and discouraged as he greeted me that morning and recounted the nightmare from which he had just awoken.

In the dream, there were “angry birds” that had somehow gained entrance into our house and were wreaking havoc. Repeatedly pecking and bouncing up and down, of all places, on the bed. He was not sure how to handle the angry birds and so he ran and cried, calling for his daddy (at that point during the recollection I was wondering why he didn’t call for mommy! But I digress).

It was then he woke up, still shaken as the situation had not been resolved in the dream.


Now you may be feeling like your whole life is a bad dream right now. Maybe there are some “angry birds” wreaking havoc in your marriage, even attacking your marriage bed. You’ve even responded the same way my son did, by running, crying and calling out to your Daddy, God.

Yet still nothing. No changes.

You’re continually discouraged because the issues in your marriage just don’t seem like they are being resolved.

So, I want to encourage you. Whatever the “angry birds” look like for you: anger, bitterness, resentment, adultery, addiction, rebellion toward God …

The real enemy behind these things is no match for you!

3. The Habit of Believing Lies

It broke my heart when I saw my son all dejected that day because I knew that he was believing a lie. Somehow, he thought that the angry birds were too much, too powerful for him.

Then soon after that initial heartbreak, a holy, righteous anger stirred up inside of me. I became mad at hell that ‘dem angry birds were picking on my son! My son! They must not know ’bout me!

But as much as I wanted to go and tell those birds a thing or two, couldn’t, given that they existed in his dream, in his head … I knew this was a battle that he had to fight himself.

And so, I wonder girlfriend, if you have some big things showing up in your marriage that are scaring you

Causing you to entertain thoughts and believe lies like:

  • “He’s never going to change.”
  • “It takes two.”
  • “This is too much for me.”

And you’re praying to God but it seems like He’s not hearing you …

I’m wondering if He’s saying something similar to you.

Yes, God’s heart is breaking because of what you are going through but perhaps this is a battle you need to fight yourself. Not in a mean-spirited way of course.

But because the key to overcoming the lies of the enemy is within you. It is knowing at a core level who you are, what you have, and where it comes from.


You are a born-again Daughter of God through the Blood of Jesus Christ!

Now let me explain what that really means.

You see, and this is what I told my son, God created everything in heaven and on earth! Even those “angry birds” (though He probably didn’t create them angry!). So, He owns it all.

“In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth.”

– Genesis 1:1 (NLT)

Now as His only begotten and beloved Son, Jesus inherited all of that!

“The Father loves his Son and has put everything into his hands.”

– John 3:35 (NLT)

And Jesus, out of His love for us, for you has chosen to share His position and inheritance with you!

Check this out:

“Look, I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy, and you can walk among snakes and scorpions and crush them. Nothing will injure you.”

– Luke 10:19 (NLT)


That means sister-friend, that you don’t have to be afraid of the “angry birds” showing up in your marriage. The truth is, they are afraid of you!

You have the authority and power over them.

So, if you ever feel powerless, know that that is a lie! It really doesn’t matter what is coming against you, you, Daughter of God and co-heir with Christ have been given the authority over all the power of the enemy.

And here’s how you knock down those lies and exercise your authority: confront and speak to the enemy.

“I tell you the truth, you can say to this mountain, ‘May you be lifted up and thrown into the sea,’ and it will happen. But you must really believe it will happen and have no doubt in your heart.”

Mark 11:23 (NLT)

So, as I told my son, I will say to you. The next time ‘dem “angry birds” show up, whatever they might look like in your marriage, don’t run from them, confront them. Speak to them and you say, “Go! In Jesus’ Name!”

When you use your words, specifically when you speak the Word of God, you are unleashing a powerful weapon that will do serious damage to the enemy.

“Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”

– Ephesians 6:17 (NLT)

Every trace of anger, bitterness, resentment, addiction, adultery, rejection, rebellion is subject to obey you.


You have to understand that when you go in Jesus’ Name, you are showing up as Him. The enemy sees you as Him!

“that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,  in heaven and on earth and under the earth,”

– Philippians 2:10 (NLT)

Nothing can stand up to a woman who knows who she is (a Daughter of God), what she has (authority over the enemy) and where it came from (Jesus Christ).

So, you have no need to be afraid.

And if you’re dealing with some stubborn “angry birds”, then it’s time to unpluck the mother of all the “angry birds” in your life, unforgiveness.

In my mini-course, Refresh! I walk you through how to finally uncover every hidden sabotage in your life that is messing with the authority that is yours in Christ! As you follow the steps outlined in this training, you will be strategically repositioned to seeing ‘dem birds leaving your marriage bed and flying out the door. 

You can access the Refresh! course as a part of the Harvest! Course Bundle.

Always praying and rooting for you,

Jenny-Lyn 🙂

P.S. This is the third and final part of the “Getting to Know the Real Enemy of Your Marriage” series. You can click to read part 1 and part 2.

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